Banish Bad Hair Days…

•August 31, 2009 • Leave a Comment

I can honestly say I never thought I’d take time out of my life to talk about hairbrushes.

To me, hairbrushes have always been something I use to…well…brush my hair. And occasionally belt out  an awful rendition of “I think we’re alone now” into after a glass or two of wine. But, no, I’ve definitely never thought of them as newsworthy….

…until now.

You see, a couple of weeks ago I received a package. This isn’t unusual in itself, as I get parcels most days, but when I opened it to find 4 rather hefty looking hairbrushes, I wondered if I’d shopping in a drug induced haze again. Believe me, it wouldn’t be the first time random purchases have arrived after a heavy night on medication and no sleep – damn those bloody infommercials.

Thankfully though, these particular items had been sent to me thanks to the lovely people at Goody. And when I say thankfully, I mean it. My hair has NEVER been so shiny and looked so good. And that’s no exaggeration – even The Boy commented on the glossiness of my brunette locks. This, I can promise you, is a big deal.

There were 3 brushes in total, and 1 detangling comb. The brushes are all clearly marked so you can see when/what they should be used for;

  1. Start
  2. Style
  3. Finish

Easy. I won’t bore you too much with hairbrush details, but quite simply;

GoodyHairbrush 1 was a pretty normal looking vent brush, with a gel handle. The ceramic bristles handily heat up whilst pointing the hairdryer at them, making hair quicker to dry. I have to say this was perfect – blow-drying my hair usually hurts my back, so the shorter drying time really did make the whole job easier – and great if you’re in a hurry

GoodyNumber 2 was a round, bristle and ceramic styling brush. It has a non slip handle and was fab for putting some volume in at the roots. Not as easy for me to do on own, but a fab styling tool and I did get on fine with it for a few minutes until the back ache kicked in!

GoodyNumber 3 was probably my favourite, and in my (not very expert) opinion is the reason for my super shiny and frizz free hair. Its a cute looking paddle brush, which seriously smoothed my hair and left it looking fabulous, with a little help from my straighteners!

I know it seems a strange thing to recommend but I genuinely would tell my friends about these brushes. A bad workman certainly wouldn’t be blaming his tools with these pieces of kit! If you want to banish all those bad hair days – get yourself some Goody‘s today –  there are lots to choose from – and I say they’re well worth the dosh.

x

Meet The Parents…

•August 28, 2009 • 7 Comments

The time has come.

This afternoon, The Boy and I are flying off to Ireland…to meet his folks.

Considering I don’t even see much of my own parents, this is a pretty big deal for me. I get a bit nervous around proper grown ups. I don’t know what to say. What if they don’t like me? What if I do something wrong and embarrass myself? What if they don’t think I’m good enough for their little soldier?!

It’s The Boys Daddy’s Birthday too, so we’re off out to celebrate. Eeeeek. There’s so much to consider – I mean, what do I even wear? I’m not sure the clothes I go out in in London would be appreciated, so must pack a dress that’s not too tight, or too low, or too short. I must not have too much wine with dinner. I must remember that it is not appropriate to sleep naked in your future in laws house…time to dig out that hospital nightie. And most importantly….I mustn’t tell the boy off for an annoying little foibles – after all he may well have inherited them. That could make me VERY unpopular.

Oooh, I’m scared.

It will be fine though – won’t it?!

Wish me luck!

Beautiful Bags…

•August 27, 2009 • Leave a Comment

Check out Heidi Mottrams gorgeous new collection of beautiful bags…

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I’m a huge fan of Eelskin as a material – it’s tougher than leather but softer to the touch. This collection is packed with jewel bright colours & intricate detailing…I’ve seen it, it’s beautiful, and it’s going to go fast!

Heidi’s designs can be purchased at the Hidden Art Pop Up Shop as part of The Dock, which take place during Londons Design Festival (21-27 September).

Acceptance…

•August 26, 2009 • 6 Comments

As my regular (lovely) readers know, I’ve been feeling pretty atrocious since the weekend.

I genuinely don’t like grumbling about it & feel horrendously guilty for doing so. I try my hardest to stay as positive as I can, because I fully  understand the psychology behind pain; the more frustrated I become, the more my body manifests that tension and the more it hurts. I know that the calmer I stay, the better it is for my body…and have consequently become a devoted believer in meditation, relaxation techniques, and the power of positive thinking. And its not mumbo-jumbo. They really do work – most of the time.

However, no matter how strong-minded you are, or try to be, its an intense struggle to keep this focus when you’re curled up in a ball for 3 days, unable to find a position that’s comfortable. It’s hard not to feel overwhelmed when you’re vomiting from the drugs, trying desperately not to cry and scream from the pain that invades your body and sends itself shooting through your back, neck, head, arms and shoulders. At these times,  I really do find it tough not to think “why me?

I know I didn’t do anything to deserve this. OK,  I’ll admit I’m no saint…but I’ve never hurt anyone, been malicious, vicious or unkind – so karma shouldn’t be out to get me. I worked hard. I paid taxes. I’m good to my Nan, I look after my friends, I’ve never been cruel to animals. I try hard to be the best person I can be.

So it doesn’t seem all that fair that Mr Hit & Run chose that particular car to steal and little old me to drive in to. It doesn’t seem right that he ran away unharmed, and left me there, broken, shattered, and half the person I used to be. And it definitely doesn’t seem OK that nearly six years on, I’m still hurting, with an ever growing list of failed procedures and no quick fix in sight.

And that’s just it. It isn’t fair. But it’s real, it happened. And what matters now is the way I deal with it when it gets this bad.

Which is where my wise and wonderful trauma therapist comes in.

There are many reasons I nearly didn’t make it to today’s appointment; I’m in severe pain – I knew the journey would exhaust me, I knew I was feeling emotional, I knew I’d cry.

I hate crying.

And yep. All of the above happened. But as always, it was worth the tiredness and a few tear-soaked tissues. I came away feeling so much stronger, more confident. Just…well…better.

You see, she reminded me that it’s OK to get upset. When you’re in pain, it hurts, you get sad – that’s natural. But what matters is how you handle the pain, and the emotion that goes with it.

I always thought I had to fight. I woke up every day ready to do battle…I’d be fighting to get through – fighting to feel better, fighting the pain trying to force it into submission…but I was wrong. She explained how fighting makes everything worse. The more you fight it – the more it fights back. Fighting never makes you feel calm and serene, it makes you tense, angry, frustrated – all of those negative, nasty things that feed the pain and make it fight back even stronger. Fighting takes energy – and that’s one thing I have very little of.

Instead, she showed me a new coping strategy that makes so much more sense to me – acceptance. Learning to accept things doesn’t make me weak.  Acceptance will help me save that energy I was using to fight those losing battles for something worthwhile, something I enjoy. I need to learn to accept that I’m going to hurt at times – not try to change it. Accept that I will have bad days, but I will have good days too…and that I may not be able to do all of the things I used to be great at, but I’ll find new things, and be bloody brilliant at those instead.  And of course, accept that it’s not going to be easy. By accepting it – I can stop being overwhelmed with the negative thoughts that feed the pain, and turn my life into something better.

This doesn’t mean that I just “give up”. I’m not about to wallow in my pain, or think it’s never going to get better. I just need to learn to acknowledge it, accept that it’s there and then try to think about something else – something more pleasurable.

So I’m off to make lists of all the good things in my life. I have so much to make me smile, to keep me motivated, that when things start to go bad I just have to look around and be reminded that even though I can’t beat the pain……

……There’s no chance of it beating me either.

“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

“I still have my feet on the ground….

•August 25, 2009 • 3 Comments

….I just wear better shoes” Oprah Winfrey

Ahhh, shoes. Any regular readers of my humble blog will know I have an unrequited love affair with shoes. I adore them. They hate me. Well, the high heeled, sexy ones do. The comfortable, cosy, not very saucy but fairly cute ones don’t have it in them to be horrible, so we get on fine. But Jeeeeeez, those killer heels, well, kill me.

However. The fact that they cause me untold back pain and extreme misery doesn’t stop me from trying to be their friend.

I regularly stare wistfully at the pretty ones, willing them to love me back. I spend hours in Selfridges shoe department…just looking….

And as soon as I see a fabulous new pair I feel like I have to pay them homage. It’s only fair.

So imagine my mixed emotions when I came across Cleo B. This fabulous British Designer, who learned her craft at Cordwainers College and in the legendary Salvatore Ferragamo design studio, is creating a huge buzz with her AW09 collection, inspired by the colours and styles of Birds of Paradise.

I love them, I really do. The shapes are stunning. The colours pop. There are peep toe wedges, boots, & classic courts. The heels are fabulous. And therefore I can’t wear them. Dammit.

No-one ever said life was fair.

But here, for your shoe-viewing pleasure…are some of the best. Go. Buy. Enjoy. And love them…from me.

Goldie RibbontailBerrypeckerSplendid


It’s fabulous, Darling!

•August 25, 2009 • Leave a Comment

I’ve got another fabulous fashion favourite to share with you today…Its simply Darling, darling!

I have been in love with their fantastic, feminine dresses for a while…and I’m not the only one. Plenty of celebs have been papped in Darling…and I bet after seeing this…you’ll become a huge fan too x

Darling - Cherie DressDarling - Darby DressDarling - Scarlet Dress

Darling - Darcy DressDarling - Poppy DressDarling - Savannah Dress

Competition: Cisco & City Rats Tickets!

•August 25, 2009 • 11 Comments

OK, so if any of you saw my write up of last weeks City Rats viewing – you might be a little bit interested in this!

City RatsThose lovely people at Cisco Consumer Business Group have been as wonderful as ever and offered me a pair of tickets to give you gorgeous lot for a second film screening at Curzon Mayfair in conjunction with Urban Screens this Thursday, 27th August at 6pm.

Woohoo!

The City Rats ticket winners will also receive a goody bag and the chance to  win a 1TB Linksys by Cisco Media Hub if you get the golden ticket…AND…there’ll even be an opportunity to meet Tamer Hassan and Ray Panthaki from the movie. YAY!

What do you have to do to win? Not a lot! Just leave a comment or message me and I’ll pick a winner at random using my trusty name picker 🙂

You’ll have a fab evening, watch a good movie and be looked after by the marvellous guys who ensured we had such a great night.

Do it!

Competition cut off: Wednesday 26th August at 4pm